By Amber Bennett
It seems like such a simple question. Until you ponder on it a bit and realize that your axe could be sharper. At least mine could be. I am the definition of what we like to define as busy-I am a mother to Stella, my four year old future world leader and baby Logan, who is just six months old but can easily pass as a twelve month old. Oh yeah, and I work full time too for an amazing company, PwC. My days start at 6 a.m. and they do not stop until I crash into a heap of tiredness around 9:30 p.m., OK 9:00 p.m.
I was trying to pretend like I take 30 minutes for myself during that time. I don’t. I haven’t in some time. That is, until the other day. The other day wasn’t so special; it was a typical early morning where I got too little sleep, after keeping said six month old well fed throughout the night. Have I thanked the inventors of coffee yet? I haven’t? Well, thank you. What was different about this particular morning was that I made a conscious decision to invest in myself for a change. The house was quiet, everyone was still sleeping and I went for a 30 minute walk.
It wasn’t earth shattering but it was a walk by myself-for myself. A walk where I was not a mom, an employee, a wife, I was just Amber. I sharpened my axe. Then that evening, I carved out 20 minutes to read a book that I had been staring at for weeks but I was unable to actually open it and get past the first page (someone is nodding their head in agreement right now). I sharpened my axe again. During this same week I met a dear friend for lunch and invested in my relationships. Wow-I sharpened my axe again. And you know what is so cool about sharpening your dull axe? The more you actively engage in investing in yourself, the more clarity and determination will arrive to meet you on your journey.
As women we have many demands put on us. Demands from our family, demands from our friends and social circles, and demands from our employers. Do you want to know a secret? Do you know who puts the toughest, most rigorous, demands on us? We do. That’s right, we do. At least I do that. I am my toughest challenger, my biggest critic. I believed (I really did) that the world might fall apart those 30 minutes I was on that walk. What if Stella woke up and did not know where her mom went? What if Logan was hungry and was screaming and woke the whole house up? And what I came to realize after that long, glorious walk (coming into a still very quiet and very asleep house) was that they are just fine.
The more I invest in myself, the more I sharpen my axe physically through exercise, socially through spending time with my husband and my friends, spiritually through my relationship with God, and professionally in my field; the better wife, mother, friend, and contributor to society I will be.
So now, amazing women of the world, I ask you-how sharp is your axe?